The Stigma hasn't Changed Yet.....

All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another. ~ Anatole France

Indeed a perfect quote.

Change, is much more than just being a simple 6 letter word. It contains in itself a whole turmoil of emotional conflicts. Conflicts which sometimes are strong enough to break you down and sometimes are intense enough to change you in and out. In my lifetime i have never seen any change , welcomed with a smile. Whether it is about entering a new life, leaving behind one, whether it is simple change in life, relations, whether it is simplest change in Facebook chat, photoviewer or any of those minutest things. Sometimes we stand up against change, sometimes the whole world stand against us.

Just think about a girl who is getting married, leaving behind her own family which she cherished with love, care, affection for 24 25 years of her life, the room she used to call her own, decorated with the colours of her life, and every small thing, happiness that she has to leave behind and she just have to say goodbye, once for all. Though she has all those dreams, hopes of a new beginning, husband who she thinks is mad in her love, a family who will care the same way like her own and if she is lucky enough she gets everything. True the happiness, the excitement overpowers it all, the fear, the anxieties and the Change, Change in her life, her soul and her very Individuality. Has anyone tried consoling her about the same...Yes the mother and the aunts do give advice to that already vulnerable soul for being at best of her behaviour with her in laws. And has anyone saw a married girl complaining about the drastic change, though she every second feels that, every second fights that, but alone, just alone. Making every move, every facial expression with a deep thought because yes they are being noticed and noticed so carefully that even after years of marriage, one wrong move, an extra pinch of salt in food becomes a one basic thing to recognize the girl with.

I agree, nowadays things are quite different, guess the Change Happened. But still there are many who didn’t change and there are more who will never change.

Because the Dowry still exists, Because newspapers have still The news of burnt brides,Because suicides are still happenings, Because physical molestation is still there and because Girls are still suffering!!

And that’s because we are still the same, because we are taught to be The Same. ‘Suffer in Silence’ is a quote which in many families girls are taught more than they are taught the ABC!

I am sure Newton wasn’t aware of the Social Stigma for a Married Girl when he discovered the theory ‘Every Reaction has an equal and Opposite reaction.’ But it existed then and it exists now. But it doesn’t negate the validity of the very theory. So The Reaction has to happen!

In a way that every person who cursed you, who  raised a hand at you to harm you, every abuse you faced, that each and every insult, you shouldn’t bear Just like that. Think, think about the reaction of that soul who is crushing herself from inside from ages, being a Daughter, being a Girl, being a Bride, being a Mother and what not and the reaction will be so intense that it will settle it all, for the betterment of herself, her family and Her Society, a betterment that will bring a revolution of The Change!

Be a girl who can love, who can give, who can compromise but when you know you are getting atleast half in return otherwise Stand Up, for yourself, your individuality and for the Change. Change that will Change it all.

BIMTECH It was......

I know i am quite late to update but the pain is still inside and it’s growing with every single second with the realisation of the fact that it is Over. Yes, the Bimtech, the college life is over once for all. It's not just we left a college behind but we all left a life behind. A life, spent so free of mind that i fear how the complexities of life, job, people, family are waiting for us with an open arm and we have no option but to be hugged by the reality sooner or later.

It's sad that when you start calling a place your home and people around, a family, becomes a strange land, for which you can only feel nostalgic about but you no longer own it. You can no longer call it your Home!

 In the past 2 months my heart was beating faster whenever i thought of the Final Moment. I passed it, i survived. And Good news my heart is not beating at that rate now, it came back to normal. Normal that whole day i go through the pictures of old memories and give it a reason to beat faster again. I am so not liking the regular pace.  Whatever it is, i know i will get over with it, everyone will but is it important ?? What was important was lived in those  2 years, what is important is still inside me, though making me feel nostalgic in this vulnerable time but i am sure years later it will add a Smile on my face and it will, till the End!

Frankly speaking, here right at this point when i am writing i don’t have the courage to write it from the Day One till the Day last but i going to write about those, who are the reason for these tears in my eyes today, who are the reason for that smile on my face for 2 years and who are the reason to let me call, past two years to be the Best Years of my life, without a slightest doubt.

Niketa, I have already written so much about you, my feelings for you are and will be the same till the end. In a single word you are ‘Incomparable’ to me, to my life.

Nitin aka NK Ji, that’s what i called you from the day we knew each other. I have heard of a phrase ‘Gem of a Person’, i grew up thinking someday someone will call me so, but after being friends with you, i knew i was so wrong, because a person has to be like You to Deserve this.  Day in day out, you were there to help me, guide me. I will never forget the way you  used to call me Madam Ji. You are the one friend i will cherish till the end. I know how you wanted me to celebrate Our Last Holi at campus. For that i will just say, forgive me.

Uday Pratap Singh! Yes your name deserves an exclamation mark. What you are not. You as a person suffice everything. You helped, you supported, you made as laugh, laugh a real hard, you got a humour, you got concern, you got intelligence, you got emotions, you got solution for any dam problem we faced and last but not least you got a funny phone! I consider myself lucky to have a friend a like you, right from the Foundation till the Convocation! And need not to mention but Forever.

Arushi, for you too i have already confessed it all. Just a thing, nowadays whenever i feel lonely and sad, i know where to go, My laptop and there comes your PIC, The ChildhooD EPICS of Yours and the next moment i am laughing like mad. I don’t know whom to thank , to you  or to your mom, take it anyways. Love you!

Akash, First things first, remember “Dhood Dhood Dhood”! Sorry for that, but i will stay say “Itna Prank to chalta h” though you never got to take the revenge of same or you were kind enough, ThankYou! You are a nice person, entertaining, chilled out. Some fine day please let me know what exactly you do with all your tensions and problems because as far as i have seen, you were Always Smiling.

Sumit Srivastav, though we became friends only in the last 2 3 terms but you know, when one meets a nice person like you, a single day is too long to become friends with. You the one who cares, cares and cares a lot for all, may be you don’t express it out loud but it is so implied in your personality.  Stay the way you are, always and yes we will someday achieve the Mission Mumbai ! ;)  

Komal, i never really thought a junior could become such a good friend but we are and we will. Have shared so much, had some really nice moments with you that I will cherish till the end. You are really a deep person and i like the way you are serious about life. You will achieve heights darling that I am sure about. And yes, Choco lava cakes will always be remembered!  Meeting you soon. J

Deepika , we were friends, then we weren’t but then again we hooked up and that was among the finest things happened to me in Bimtech. You got three special things, your big big heart who loves almost everyone, your small room which had space for everyone and you Khooni Teddy! I miss it a lot. Thank you for bearing all of us in your room for whole 2 years. It was always very special sitting there and talking all nonsense! Forgive me for clicking lamest pictures of yours and then uploading most of them. But i guess, i gave you a reason to remember me. I wish you luck for the future you have planned for.

Vivek Kashyap, though our first talk was so out of my explanation but then things were good. I never thought you will become such a good friend. You are a sweet soul with a sweeter smile. You rarely speak but your concern for your friends is always so visible. Just stay focused in life, for worthwhile things and you will achieve it all.

Nida Majeed, frankly speaking i never ever thought we would ever be friends. But when i got to know you, i liked you and i adore you for few of your qualities. You are always smiling girl, no matter what you face. And after being away from you people, i missed your company. Keep making the world Happier! You are too good at that. J

Arjun Arora, i will give credit to Food conduit and Choco Sins for becoming friends with you! You are one person who say on face whatever inside. I like the way you are enthusiastic about things, be it any event or any other work, besides studies which goes without saying. One thing, i tried really hard but didn’t understood most words you wrote in my dairy. I believe they all must be compliments only!

Rinky, Last but definitely not the least. I am so fallen for your voice girl. It’s just too too cute. Every outing with you was so much fun. I like the way you look at life. You believe Everything is Possible. Though i don’t want to list out all those things, just remember the last morning! You are real sweetheart to me and will always be.

That’s all i have to say, it was the best of times spent with you all .Please ignore me for all the irritation i brought into your lives for these 2 years, i am sure may be just for once but i must have given you reason to Smile! Be with me, always.